Most of us have believed the lie that achievement equates to fulfillment.
We all have different motivators that have inspired us to pick a particular career path and some of these motivators are a direct link to our fears. For instance, if you struggled with finances growing up, your motivation might be to do whatever it takes to eliminate financial stressors in your life. Or.. if you were abused or abandoned when you were younger, you might pick a profession that others will view as strong or independent.
With the help of some of the greatest mind and body practitioners in the world, I was able to heal my pain by understanding at a deeper level the difference between achieving a lot and creating a life of fulfillment. Achievements are a beautiful way to set intent and watch the fruits of our labor manifest into what we envisioned; to compliment your achievements with a fulfilling life I am requesting that you focus as much of your attention on 3 values each day to ensure that you are living out your dreams:
To pursue what we love we must have a strong foundation. We maintain this foundation through how we eat, move, rest, and play. When we practice these values on a daily basis we remain a living example of how to balance ourselves, which will provide fulfillment in our lives. Paul Chek goes into great detail on how to listen to the innate wisdom of how to heal the mind-body in his book, The Last 4 Doctors You’ll Ever Need.
Joy can be taught by explaining the difference between self-love and self-esteem. Self-esteem is dictated on how you have relied on the external (world’s acceptance) to feel good about yourself. This kind of dependence on external validation does not allow authenticity in creating the life that you want. After you begin to develop a love of self, then it becomes natural to love what you do because it will no longer be in your agreement to live a life or have a job that is not loving for you.
“Once self-love is the foundation of our lives, then all of our actions have direction, purpose, and meaning towards the fulfillment of our dreams.”
Relationships are the cornerstone to developing our Dream Team. Who are the top 3 friends in your life you discuss your dreams with and visa versa? “Show me your friends and I will show you your future.” - Unknown
What family members have you allowed into your life and how much energy are you willing to give to those dynamics? Does the energy you place in these relationships allow the support you need for your dreams to become a reality?
The most important relationship you will ever have is the one with yourself.
How do you discuss your dreams to yourself? Most clients that come into my office are riddled with guilt from what they think they “should do” or “shouldn’t have” done. This self-defeating language does nothing but keep you stuck and is guaranteed to present itself throughout this process. Don’t fight it or ignore the naysayer within because that part of you requires healing.
I recommend keeping a journal and writing down the mental and emotional “roadblocks” that seem to come up as a hindrance to living out your dreams. Begin to view these thoughts as a teacher instead of your enemy. Remember, whatever you are thinking is a part of you and it will manifest itself in your life in some way, so set the intent to welcome whatever has been hanging out in the shadows holding you back from what you most desire by showing yourself some love and compassion. Notice that I discussed the process toward having a compassionate, loving relationship with yourself first before I ever discussed putting anything into action.
TIME TO TAKE ACTION
I had the pleasure of being taught by Angie Chek, at the Chek Institute who caught me discussing my dreams as something in the distant, far out future. Consider that by reading this blog right now you are actively in the process toward living out your dreams. Write down exactly what you would like to create in your life in a few sentences starting with, “I am in the process of…” As an example, I am in the process of creating a nationwide program that provides student-athletes with a fulfilling life while achieving whatever their hearts desire.” If you want to learn more about how I used meditation to envision my dream, please read my post 365 Days of Tai Chi.
A natural byproduct of loving ourselves is creating a life we love.
In the video below Alan Watts asks the question, “What would you like to do if money were no object?” My hope is that his words inspire authenticity to give yourself the greatest gift you will ever create…a life that is worthy of you!
To great Health!
Alan Watts was a British philosopher, writer, and speaker, best known for speeches that promote consciousness in every area of your life. His work has been an inspiration, my hope is that his words inspire you to live the life of your dreams.